Cars. Unlike the stereotypical woman, I love them, so one would think that buying a new (used) car would be an exciting experience. Unfortunately, it's not. My husband and I have different ideas about what a good car should be. I want luxurious but practical; he wants sporty and fast. I prefer automatic; he prefers standard. Over the past several years, our car purchases resulted in compromise, anger, and resentment. Buying a car causes our worst arguments. In fact, both of us have uttered the D-word over a car. Over the past seven years, I also have tried to introduce a male-led relationship into our lives, believing that it would lead to greater satisfaction for both of us. It didn't work well. Whenever I mentioned giving him authority, he got a ‘deer caught in the headlights’ look. He jumped to the worst conclusions, always saying, “But I don't want to hurt you.†My biggest blunder was when I once called him “Master†in bed. I felt stupid, and it killed the intimacy pretty quickly.